Age Difference in Marriage

Hello I am 34 years old I am a Christian.  For 10 years I have been friends with a gentleman from my church.. He was married and his wife died a few years ago. He seemed to be interested in me. But I’m conscious about his age.

He is 16 years older. I always get upset sometimes when he talks to me we can’t see eye to eye. My family and his family wants me to marry him also. Other women at church want to marry him. I don’t know if I’m the problem. How do you know when someone is right for you.

Advice from Love Doctor on age difference in marriage

So you always get upset when this man talks to you? You can’t also see eye to eye with him? And your question is whether you should marry him or not? Come on! Don’t be desperate and rush into marriage.

I can sense that your family feels you’re getting older that’s why they’re pushing you for him. His family thinks he needs to re-marry too. So you two seems available so lets put them together. I hope am wrong.

Dear age difference of 16 years isn’t a problem at all see our article on dating an older man. The problem is that you don’t get along. So my advice is that do not marry him. It wouldn’t work.

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4 Responses so far.

  1. Bright Bethwel says:

    Don’t get married because others want you to. They won’t be in the marriage with you. Well, age difference reallt isn’t your problem. The problem is the two of you don’t get along well. Seriously, you don’t.
    But if you wish to go ahead and marry him. Take time off to get to know eachother well first before planning for any other thing.
    All the best.

  2. Tijani says:

    Hi dear
    age difference do not really matter in marriage world, all that is needed is trust, understanding, love and togetherness, that is all, the first thing you should do is to know if you are also interested in this man in question, if yes then there you go, remember you are a woman and time awaits you not. You really have to do something before he gets fed up and change his mind.
    Best wishes

  3. Chantel Iris says:

    I don’t think age should be a barrier separating two people from being together. but in your case, I think its just more than the age barrier. you two don’t seem to have that love element going on. that is something you have to feel for someone before you get married to them. you lack that spark and added spice in your relationship with him. and I think if you go ahead to marrying him.., t might not end well. am not trying to be a prophet of doom or anything but hey you seem not to like this guy. you guys don’t agree on stuff…,what more proof is there to confirm this. you need to think things through and know whether this is what you really want before tying the knot.i.e, if you want to.

  4. Teddy Wendy says:

    Age difference isn’t a real issue when it comes to marriage. But in this case when you two don’t get along too well, i will advice you don’t go in for this marriage. Don’t marry him because your family and his think its appropriate, it depends on you two. Spend sometime with him to see if things will go well but if not you should go your separate ways.


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