I Kissed Another Woman; Should I Tell My Wife

Good morning, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I have been married for 3 years with a 2 year old daughter. Four months ago after a long day of drinking I kissed another woman for 2-3 seconds before pulling away and walking away from the situation. At the time I believe I was frustrated with a lack of attention from my wife since our child entered our life and a lack of intimacy.

Since this event we have been working on both. I still feel very guilty and shameful about those 2 seconds. The question is should I tell my wife about that lapse in judgement? I love her tremendously and I know this event would devastate her. I also am carrying around a ton of guilt which consumes my mind constantly throughout the day. The chances that my wife would find out are extremely slim but I guess anything is possible. I appreciate any assistance you can provide. Paul

Marriage Counseling on Kissing Another Woman

Are you kidding me? Why on earth do you want to tell your wife you kissed another woman? Are you next to God?

Lets start from the beginning. You were drinking and didn’t kiss with full conscience. I’m not supporting you, what you did was wrong, but you didn’t kill anybody did you? So why so much guilt?

If you tell your wife, then you’re being selfish and greedy emotionally. Because you want to get rid of emotional stress, you want to hurt your wife? Don’t you think she’ll be emotionally stressed than you? Man it up and get over it. Forgive yourself and move on to enjoy your lovely family.

You’re a good man and the dream of many women.

Post Tagged with


About Relationship Counselor

Love Doctor is a very open minded person. Gives true love advice and states it as it is in order for the person to get the message unadulterated.