Role of Money in Marriage
Money plays a major role to the success or otherwise of marriages. In some situations, the lack of it, may be the cause of the end of the marriage, whiles in certain instance, the plenty of it may also bring an end to the marriage. Research shows that money is the most important factor that causes a lot of divorce and ruins in most marriages. The article tries to address some key concerns about money and marriage. Does money mean safety and success of marriage? Are money decisions shared? If both partners are earning, is the money split or combined? And if one partner isn’t working, how does that person glean respect?
Money and marriage is sought by most women, as with men- who often need assurance in the form of physical intimacy, women need assurance financially. This may create some form of resentment on the part of a woman who marries a man who is lazy and cannot meet her financial needs. Here, the inability of the man to provide sufficient money for her up keep, may force her to engage in multiple job to be able to meet her needs. The fate of this marriage is likely to fall because the man has neglected his responsibility. The partner (man) who isn’t working may lose some form of respect and may affect the marriage.
The presence of money may not necessary mean safety and success of marriage, in the since that, difference in the spending habit of the money can also bring an end of the marriage. As noted by Dr. Atwood – opposites often attracts. “Spenders attract hoarders, and worriers attract avoiders.” So, in a situation where a partner is extravagant and spends more than the other, the issue of financial conflict may arise which may lead to break down of the marriage. Because studies show that, most people, even if they start a relationship as the sole provider, have grown to be more appreciative of a more equal financial partnership. For this reason, even in a marriage where money may not be an issue, if the source is from only one partner or the spending between the partners are not synchronize, then marital conflicts may arise.
It has been noted that, the key reason why money issues become a problem in marriage, is that, issues relating to money are not discussed prior to marriage. People can now discuss issues concerning sex than with money. Thus, decision concerning money and marriage is not shared. The fact that a partner’s spending habit, laziness, extravagant use of money are overlooked whiles dating, may in the future bring problems when they finally marry.
As with all financial decisions we make, we need a lot of information in order to make a sound choice. Marriage, described as one of the most important financial decision that many people will ever make, most go into it blind. – Dr. Phil.
Lessons from financial heart breakers or let me say; relationships that has been broken due to money and marriage issues reveals that, it is always advisable to seek financial compatibility with your partner before getting married, compatibility- in the sense that, both partners should have a common attitude towards money. This will make them able to handle issues relating to money when they get married.