Signs of Infidelity and How to Deal With It
Although it is debated which sexes is more susceptible to infidelity, blame cannot be placed on either. Both men and women have exhibited signs of infidelity whilst in a relationship. Cheating is not only physical as people think, there is emotional infidelity, too. One may feel lonely, or wronged, or slighted in a present relationship that they may seek comfort and security elsewhere, perhaps with someone who can relate to or understand them.
Discovering that your partner is having an affair is heart breaking, particularly infidelity in a marriage – a relationship where you have made official and soul-binding vows to work, love and cherish each other for the rest of your life. Below are signs of infidelity
Signs of Infidelity 1:- Stagnation in the romantic aspect of the marriage
The partner may have felt that the sweetness of a tender, loving relationship in the past, but it appears to have gradually evaporated. And Instead of seeking solutions, they may look for it elsewhere.
Signs of infidelity 2: Having Emotional Security With another person
This is a form of Emotional infidelity. The partner finds security elsewhere by sharing their problems and achievements with someone else other than the spouse. They are the first to break any news to and also seek emotional comfort when in distress. To help prevent your partner from having an affair try to pay emotional attention to their needs. Married couples then to focus on the children to the neglect of their husband or wife. Have time for each other and talk about whats important to each other.
Sign of Infidelity 3: A general sense of boredom by the other partner when they send time together.
Have your partner been feeling bored even if you’re together? Then you’re in deep trouble. They may have found a new partner who probably seems to provide them something new, a breath of fresh air, if you will. A renewed ‘honeymoon’ period, which they feel that they are entitled to. To prevent your partner from having an affair, you should put a stop to doing things routinely. You’re not robots so try and chip in something new.
So now you have three signs of infidelity but the list does not cover all. Study your partner to find lifestyle changes in him or her. Do not for a second think your partner cannot cheat just because you are married. The underlying cause, no matter what, is dissatisfaction and the root of the problem may not stem from the marriage itself. Commitment issues due to past trauma, problems at work that they may not be able to talk about and so on. Seeing the signs of infidelity and preventing is the best, but if cheating has already occurred then below are the steps to take.
How to deal with infidelity
- Vent your feelings constructively. Be honest with yourself, and then to your partner. Accept that infidelity has occurred if you want to resolve it.
- Talk it out. It could be either side’s fault, it could be neither. The important thing is tell the truth completely. Sometimes, it could be a one-time thing too.
- Moving on is essential. And the only way to move on is to understand that infidelity is to be shouldered by both partners. It requires growth, maturity and understanding of both partners. If you are wrong, accept whatever has happened, forgive, and find out the best way of healing yourself.
Hope this helps you in understanding infidelity. If you have any problems facing your marriage and need online marriage counseling, use the “ask a question” link and we’ll provide answers to you at no cost.
Signs of Infidelity was written by Georgina Awuah