Signs You’re Heading for Divorce

UNDERSTANDING DIVORCE

Divorce comes about when there’s that need to want to quit a marriage relationship often at times owing to various factors that set the two partners apart from each other.  It’s usually assumed that when couples involved in a marriage that’s not working right or facing certain challenges, divorce is undoubtedly the best solution and option favorable to both sides as well as ensuring everyone’s freedom and complete peace of mind.

CAN YOU DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER?

Relationships when gone sour usually aren’t that easy to mend or better still fix, especially when the couple involved do not have any form of committed efforts directed towards making the relationship better. Sometimes, bringing a relationship that’s gone off track back to what it used to be may not be entirely possible or easy to achieve, but when efforts made do not yield positive results, it may be advisable to draw back and let things remain as they are.

UNDERSTANDING MARRIAGE

Marriage as we all know is the union between two people who love each other and have  agreed or decided to be together, for better or for worse, till death do them part, in sickness or in health, for richer or for poorer and all the accompanying strings that hold their union together. Now, when there’s a breach in the involvement between the two, often at times frustration begins to set in and complacency as well as the need to back out from the union becomes the order of the day. Whatever the case may be, you need to focus on the marriage and with precision, be able to tell apart from that which is wrong and not right in the relationship.

Below are few pointers noted down that will better inform you of what to expect when a divorce is plunging straight towards your marriage. You’ll normally notice that your marriage is headed for divorce when:

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    Signs You're heading for Divorce

    Signs You’re heading for Divorce

    EFFORTS BY ONLY ONE PARTY

    Efforts made to mend or repair the marriage amidst the conflicts and complications that exist, is usually  carried out by one partner solely without the other partner’s involvement. There’s usually that showcase of the ‘I don’t care’ attitude most often emerging from the part of the partner whose lost any form of hope in the rehabilitation of the marriage. By this, there sets in complacency and the normal attitude of opting out for divorce with the least chance gotten as problems keep rising  in the marriage. When this happens, without any restrictions, a hold is placed on the marriage and the tendency of divorce setting in becomes unavoidable.

    LACK OF RESPECT

    There’s usually a lack of respect from both partners involved in the marriage. The marriage tends to lack that basic existence of mutual respect and tolerance from the partners and when this happens, misunderstanding is created in the marriage serving as a major loophole and key invitation for Divorce. Now, when there’s the non-existence of basic respect in a relationship even more marriage, which is a much needed tool for the survival of any given relationship, there seizes to exist any form of quality communication and concordance in the marriage making it grow sour and extremely unbearable for the partners involved.

    NO ONE IS READY TO MAKE SACRIFICES

    There exists no form of sacrifice or consideration in the marriage when it comes to the feelings, wants and needs of partners involved. In every relationship and marriage in particular, there need to exist that level of consideration when taking certain decisions in regards to areas that are of much greater concern and importance to both partners. Noticeable attitudes of selfishness are seen being exhibited in the marriage which does not augur well for the marriage in the long run. Decision making involving  kids and their upkeep or nurturing, sex, care, affection, among a whole lot needs some level of compromise.

    NO COMMUNICATION

    There seizes to exist any means or level of communication between both partners. With the onset of problems and complications, couples are bound to draw away from each other. This creates a limitless amount of space between them hence closing all forms of communication needed or relevant in mending and rebuilding the marriage that’s sinking. To every problem faced in every relationship, the central key for solving is constant communication.  If communication is made to dwindle in the marriage, the possibility of the marriage heading for divorce is inevitable.

 

  • TIME NOT SPENT TOGETHER

    Both partners get disassociated from each other in several areas in regards to the marriage. This is seen being exhibited as couples tend to spend less time at home or with their partners, concentrate more and use work as an excuse to escape from the other person entirely, as well as spending much more quality time  with others(friends or acquaintances) aside the one their married to. There’s some form of relief when one is usually not together with the other person and that feeling of losing interest in the marriage comes into play. Both partners become somewhat disengaged and disassociated completely from the marriage and try finding solace in diverse means to putting an end to the union…., thus the emergence of DIVORCE!

 

Marriage can be sustained depending on one’s level of input in trying to resolve issues and complications associated with it. From the beginning, it might look almost impossible to achieve success towards trying all the means possible in re-building the once happy marriage that’s turned sour. One needs to keep the constant reminder that so long as happy days and fun-filled moments do exist in relationships, the same way marriages too face their own unique hay days and conflicting moments. But no matter the challenges faced, one needs to brace him/herself up and work towards resolving the marriage. Some would prefer to opt out for divorce when marriage reaches that point where it can’t be salvaged. To them, it is undoubtedly the best means to attaining that peace they seek and desire to have owing to the ills suffered in the marriage they find themselves in. But I trust that not every marriage complication demands divorce as the best means of solving. Divorce might work for one complicated marriage, but may not entirely do for the next. It’s entirely dependent on situations faced and at what point or extent brought forth into the marriage. In my opinion, marriage needn’t have to go through the process or extent of facing divorce. When both partners have that concerted connection and view their marriage as being problematic but with the individual assurance that they’ll work together as a team in helping bring the marriage back on its track, divorce is not in any way given the free pass to regulate and be the prime decider for couples much more their children, if any exists in the marriage. You can make your marriage work regardless of the problems faced and get to sail through the stormy seas doing just fine.

 

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Signs You’re Heading for Divorce was written By: Chantelle Iris Nunoo.

3 Responses so far.

  1. priness says:

    If there is no effective communication, no intimacy. A break in emotional connection. No happiness in the marriage. As well as couples not compatible.